Dress code: Note, I have pictures of my suit. If you're a guy and still are not sure: email me and I'll send you the pics of my suit so you can compare what you're thinking to what I'll be wearing. 

Ok I've got a few questions about what to wear when. First thing is for the wedding, it's dressy, not casual. No jeans and t-shirts for instance. You don't have to go overboard with shoes, for guys any dark or black non sneakers shoes will do. For girls the type of shoes you wear with skirts would be fine.

At the wedding I'll be wearing a suit with a white shirt and dark burgundy-ish tie with a pin-stripe suit and pants. It's very dressy, but not stuffy and old-looking. The tie is very festive. If you have a suit and tie wear that. For pants, any type of slacks will do. Just don't dress like you're going to a funeral, and don't dress like you're going to a nightclub. For women skirts with a nice top is fine, you don't have to go fullblown on a dress, but there will be people there with nice dresses also, so you won't be overdressed.

Friday's BBQ and Sunday's Lunch are both casual. You can wear whatever you want. The only formal things are the wedding ceremony and the dinner. So don't worry, you won't be uncomfortable for long. :)